today like everyday I listen to the story or fresh air on NPR at lunch – today fresh air was interviewing Carole King, award-winning singer-song writer. a great interview and a lot of interesting conversation; but the statement that stuck with me all day was Carole talking about the song “He hit me (it felt like a kiss)”.
Carole spoke of the abuse she suffered from her third husband:
“… there are women — and some men — who experience domestic abuse who feel ashamed, who think it’s their fault, who think they don’t deserve to be safe or don’t remember what it’s like to be safe. And I thought, ‘If women and men read this and say, ‘Wow, she was successful. She had financial independence. She had it so together and she could be in a relationship like that … maybe I’m not so bad, maybe it’s not my fault.’ …”
what struck me was that word safe. what does it mean to be or feel safe? i don’t know that i have ever felt safe.
safe is defined by Webster as:1: free from harm or risk : unhurt
2: secure from threat of danger, harm, or loss